The Will of God

Of the many theological topics that interest me, high on the list is Discerning the Will of God. This started several years ago and has continued to grow. I love it because periodically I am able to sit down with friends and discuss it--not in theory but in practice. I have been with friends who were in this grueling process of trying to ascertain the will of God. It is challenging, enlightening, and absolutely invigorating to see how the Spirit of God is active in someone's life, even if they themselves do not see it. They don't see it because it is similar to the fog of war--you are so involved in the process that you no longer see objectively. I could go on and on.

This week I read an excellent treatment of a particular type of prayer, The Prayer of Relinquishment. I am reading through Richard Foster's book, Prayer, and it has truly taken me to some depths that I have not experienced in years. Truly, my readings, my conversations and other studies have been triangulated it seems, and The Prayer of Relinquishment spoke to me greatly. This topic is very complete, but let me try to explain just a piece of it.

The Prayer of Relinquishment is when we completely lay down our human will and say to God, "Not my will be done, but your will be done." However, if you are like me, there are about a 1,000 miles and 4,000 steps in the process of getting to that point of relinquishment. There are simply times in our lives where we sense that our will and the will of God are not in alignment. He is up to something. We sense it. We feel it in our soul. Sometimes this might be because of sin and then the answer is clear. However, there are times where we come to a cross roads and have to make a decision that not only impacts one little area of our life, but may in fact affect the entirety of the rest of our life. During this time we begin to seek God. We begin to ask questions, pray, and beg him to show us what to do. And, if you are like me, at times those prayers are selfish and manipulative and it seems like God simply doesn't answer as clearly as we would like. We don't necessarily despise the process because at least we are engaged with God in a dialogue, which is much better than feeling isolated and abandoned.

Have you ever gotten the impression that some people just know the will of God? They don't struggle and they seem to hear from God like he has their cell phone number and simply sends them a text message? Well, Abraham, Moses, David, Mary, Paul and, not the least, Jesus all struggled in prayer over the will of God for their life. Abraham struggled to give back to God his son, who was actually an answered prayer! Moses struggled over how God would choose to use him as a leader. David struggled as his infant son was dying. Mary, the Lord's mother, struggled to comprehend what the news meant as the angel gave her the news of who was inside her womb. Paul struggled with the thorn in the flesh. And then there is Jesus, who in the Garden of Gethsemane, was growing weary with the will of his Father: is this the only way? can't this be accomplish through another means?

[Short disclaimer: this is not to say that God always asks us to do things that we hate, late or don't want to do. I have many friends who absolutely wanted to live and work in a certain place and God obliged. ]

Jesus put into words what we each feel when life's decisions are difficult--let this cup pass. Surely this can't be the way you have chosen! You've got to be kidding! God would never ask that of me, would he? The blood-like sweat dropped to the ground, showing us that he was working hard to understand, to comprehend the mysterious ways of God. He wrestled, much like Jacob. Jacob had his hip torn; Jesus had his life taken.

It is okay to struggle. Relinquishment is not resignation--it is proactive, not passive. It is not simply letting go and saying, "God is sovereign; he'll work it out. He'll do it all." That is fatalistic. Relinquishment is letting go with hope. And it is not the obliteration of the will either. It is crucifying it with Jesus so that you may live a life of obedience to God just like Jesus did.

But there comes a time when we must Relinquish. This was true with Jesus and is no different with us, "Not my will but yours be done" (Luke 22:39-46). For your benefit and mine, I will give an extended quote from Foster. He writes, " We do well to meditate often on this unparalleled expression of relinquishment. . .here we have the incarnate Son praying through his tears and not receiving what he asks. Jesus knew the burden of unanswered prayer. He really did want the cup to pass, and he asked that it would pass. 'If you are willing' was his questioning, his wondering. The Father's will was not yet absolutely clear to him. 'Is there any other way?' 'Can people be redeemed by some different means?' The answer--no! Andrew Murray writes, 'For our sins, He suffered beneath the burden of that unanswered prayer.'"

I am extremely challenged by this message and the example of Jesus. I have seen this truth in my life. For many years the will of God was presented by some in a way that disheartened me, thinking that everyone should "hear from God" so clearly and easily as they. But that is not my experience and perhaps it is not yours either. But how many times have I cried out to God and said, "I don't like your will! Why must you chose that hard way? This is much easier! This is what I think is right and good!" And yet he graciously waits patiently for me, for all of us, to come to the Garden and sit alongside Jesus and pray as he did, "Not my will but your will."